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I want to thank all my readers who have followed me on wordpress! You have been great!

I am still blogging, but will now blog exclusively on my weebly hosted blog.

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Thanks so much for reading, and be well!


Walk Through the Darkness for Suicide Prevention


Screenshot 2014-10-17 18.30.54Hello Readers!

I hope you all are doing well. I typically do not make this type of request- but wanted to let you know of the opportunity to either participate or support someone in this event.

I will be joining with hundreds of people to walk 18 miles through the night in the Out of the Darkness Overnight to benefit the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. The walk will be held on April 25th in Dallas, TX.

I will be walking as a member of Logos Counseling and my personal fundraising goal is $1,000.00. I would appreciate any support that you give me for this worthwhile cause, whether it is $1, $5, or $500, every little bit helps.

As a mental health professional I work with people struggling with suicidal thoughts, attempts, and even family members who have lost a loved one on a daily basis. I specialize in working with those self harm, and while self harm is not a suicide attempt, they are often co-occuring.

The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention is at the forefront of research, education and prevention initiatives designed to reduce loss of life from suicide. With more than 30,000 lives lost each year in the U.S. and over one million worldwide, the importance of AFSP’s mission has never been greater, nor our work more urgent.

I hope you will consider supporting my participation in this event. Any contribution will help the work of AFSP. Checks should be made payable to AFSP and are 100% tax deductible. You can also just follow the link below at the bottom of the email to make a donation electronically.

Thank you for considering this request for your support. If you have any questions about the Out of the Darkness Overnight or AFSP do not hesitate to contact me.

Please visit my Overnight fundraising page if you would like to donate online or see how close I am to reaching my personal goal: Support My Walk for Suicide Prevention

Thanks so much! And be well!

Family Fall Activities

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Ginger guarding our winter herbs.

Fall is a great time to get outside with the family. The temperatures are cooler and it’s a great change up from being cooped up in the office or in school all day! (It is also a great treatment for S.A.D., see my my article on S.A.D. here.)

There are THOUSANDS of websites and list out there about fall activities to go through, just a quick Google search and you will find more than enough activities to keep you busy thought the autumnal season. But not all list are created equal, so I decided to add my two cents and provide a list of some of my favorite fall activities.


  1. Pumpkin Patch! These are great fun, especially if you can find one out side of the city limits. Many church provide pumpkin patches in town, but getting out into the country provides opportunities for hay rides and other activities. This is often an activity that is pet friendly, but always call ahead.
  2. Just go jump in a…pile of leaves! That’s right, it was fun when we were kids and is still a blast! All you need is a rake, some leaves (of course) and some energetic kids! Some dogs love it too, just check out the video below!
  3. Another oldie, but a goodie. Take a family walk! There tends to be much more movement in the neighborhoods during this time of year. It’s a great time to connect (or reconnect) with our neighbors, as well as enjoy the sight and scents of fall.
  4. Attend a high school football game. It does not even have to be one where you went to or your kids go to. Just any high school football game. The atmosphere is fun and electric, and can you really beat those 2.50 nachos made from a questionable cheese product? Just cover it in jalapeños and it will be okay.
  5. And of course pumpkin carving (or painting) has to be on the list. Fun for all and you can even use some of the pumpkin left over to make some pumpkin pies (I’ve made pumpkins with pie pumpkins and Jack O’Lantern pumpkins, the former is just a bit sweeter, but both work just fine).
  6. Apples, apples, and more apples! There are many orchards around that will allow you to go and pick your own, similar to a pumpkin patch. It’s also a great time to check out various types of apples!
  7. Tracing leaves or drawing and decorating your own leaves is a fun activity for the whole family. You can use the final products to decorate the fridge or even begin to piece together a cornucopia center piece!
  8. This one is my favorite – cooking. Fall is a great time to spend a few hours inside cooking both savory and sweet recipes. The hours spent cooking always have a great reward at the end!
  9. A fall garden is not always possible (depending on where you live), but a make-shift fall/winter garden is possible nearly everywhere. Just pick your favorite herbs and veggies and put them in pots and planters so you can move them inside when it gets too cold. We’ve kept basil alive for years at a time this way!
  10. Fall is also a time when our minds begin to turn to volunteering. Whether it is with a soup kitchen, a church, a clothing closet or for a neighbor, it is always good to get out as a family and give back to the community. (Just remember, there are a plethora of opportunities throughout the year to volunteer as well!).

Of course these are only a few ideas meant to get the creative juices flowing. Just remember the focus – family and fun!

Thanks for reading, and be well!

Tips for Feeling S.A.D.

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It’s Autumn already!? It feels like this happens every year!

In honor of the Autumnal Equinox (also known as the beginning of Fall), I thought it might be helpful to look at S.A.D. (Seasonal Affective Disorder).

According to the CDC, SAD affects around 4%-7% of the population. It usually kicks into high gear around this time of year and has an off and on presence until the Springtime. Seasonal affective disorder gets it’s name from being prominent during a certain season (e.g fall/winter or spring/summer).

While different in many ways from major depression, SAD is nothing to scoff at. It can have devastating effects on a person’s mood, work/school performance, and personal relationships. Just because it is “seasonal” does not mean that it should not be taken seriously.

For clarity, below is an overview of the symptoms of SAD (taken from the Mayo Clinic):
Fall and winter SAD symptoms may include:

  • Irritability
  • Tiredness or low energy
  • Problems getting along with other people
  • Hypersensitivity to rejection
  • Heavy, “leaden” feeling in the arms or legs
  • Oversleeping
  • Appetite changes, especially a craving for foods high in carbohydrates
  • Weight gain

A quick note: Spring and summer SAD does exist and usually begins in mid-spring and lasts through the summer months. Some notable differences in spring/summer SAD include:

  • Trouble sleeping (insomnia)
  • Weight loss
  • Poor appetite

The good news is that there are some very practice ways to push back against SAD and limit how much it affects day to day living.

  • Get as much sunlight as possible – if sunlight is at a premium, keep reading!
  • Get as much fresh air as possible – go for a mid-afternoon walk, it will do wonders for your mood (and productivity)
  • Get the “right” amount of sleep – 7-8 hours is a good eye-ball figure for adults, teens will need a bit more
  • Make use of special lamps for light therapy (phototherapy) when sunshine is scarce
  • Stay connected with your support group (friends and family)
  • Eat well – it’s okay to splurge a little during the holidays, but an increased intake of sugar and carbs will  send your mood and sleep cycle on a roller coaster
  • Get some exercise – similar to taking a walk, but with a focus on getting your blood flowing (an added plus is the natural release of feel good chemicals after a good exercise!)
  • Counseling – a trained therapist can help you find emotional, cognitive, and behavioral coping skills and strategies to minimize the effects of SAD
  • Medications – while not right for everyone, if you have tried some of the other options and you have found no relief, do not hesitate to talked to a trained physician who has experience in treating SAD. There are some medications out there that might be helpful to you.

Here’s hoping for an enjoyable fall and winter season! Thanks for reading and be well!

*Even people who do not “have” SAD can experience the above symptoms. It’s call subsyndromal SAD. Either way, SAD can really throw a kink a person’s life and overall sense of wellbeing and it’s worth taking the steps to address it before it become overwhelming. 

Depression Top Ten

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A little sunshine can work wonders!

In the wake of the news of Robin Williams taking his life and the wave of attention that depression and suicide have in turn received (both good and bad), I thought it would be helpful to address depression in a more helpful manner.

We can discuss and debate the cause and nature of depression, but I think what would be more beneficial is for us to stop and really consider how we can help those who are struggling with depression, regardless of how we think depression works or if it is a disease or not.

So, without further adieu – I present my Top Ten ways to support someone with depression.

1. Get informed. NAMI and NIMH are both great places to start. In today’s age of information access, ignorance is no excuse.

2. Be kind. Just treat someone who struggles with depression like a human being.

3. Don’t assume, ask. Don’t make assumptions about their internal or cognitive state, just ask.

4. Be willing to take action or to give space. Sometimes someone struggling with depression needs a friend to push them to get out or to watch a movie with or help them get to the doctor. Other times, they just need someone to assure them that they are there and will be there when they are ready to engage.

5. Stay away from cliché remarks (or be honest about them). I’ll be honest, I’m the worst at this one. So I just admit it and move on. Honesty, once again, is the best policy.

6. If you don’t know what to say, say nothing (or that you simply don’t know what to say). This could easily be 5b. If we are at a loss for words, silence is often the best option. That, or just let the person know that you do not know what to say, other than that you care about them.

7. Keep the topic off yourself or your cousin. It’s human nature to want to associate other’s experiences with something that we are familiar with. Resist the temptation. That last thing a person who is depressed needs is to hear how your second cousin once removed once felt depressed and then bought a gold fish and everything was better. Just don’t.

8. Be patient. There may be minutes (or even hours) just sitting in silence or with just a few words spoken. Depression causes a cognitive fog that can be hard to get out of, so be patient. Sometimes it may take a while for someone to respond or share their needs. Hang in there with them.

9. Encourage them to get out doors (see above picture). Being outside, even for a short walk or sitting on the porch, can help push back against the fog of depression. Even just a few moments can be helpful.

10.    Keep at it, even if rebuffed. Keep the focus on them, not you and your feelings. Once again this is a human nature thing. We have a tendency to get our feelings hurt when others do not respond to our bids of help. When someone is depressed, they may not see those bids or even have the energy or self-esteem to respond. Keep the focus on caring and support. It is not personal, it is the depression. Do not get tired of reaching out.

11.    Bonus: remember that depression isn’t logical. This adds on to number 10 as well. Someone who struggles with depression may float in and out of logical thinking. Yes, that is frustrating and makes helping them more difficult, but that’s the truth. Remember this fact and it will help you see their feelings and behaviors in a different context.

12. Extra Bonus: Know when to reach out and get others involved. If you are unsure what to do, you can always call the national help line at 1.800.273.8255. You can also check out their website here.

Any others that you would add? Just leave them in the comment below.

Thanks for reading, and be well! (And enjoy some John Denver!)

Is YouTube Considered Self-Care?

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A spa day can do wonders!

I’m sitting at the computer, sucked in to video after video on YouTube, when my wife comes in and says, “Honey, you’ve been on the computer for hours.”

“Sorry,” I say, “I was just engaging in some self-care.”

YouTube as self care?

Self-care is a phrase you may have heard. While the meaning may seem straightforward, in my opinion it is often ill-defined.

Self-care is not just egocentric behavior and gluttonous consumption of items and behaviors that make us “happy”(my thoughts on happiness are coming soon, stay tuned).

Self-care is purposeful action to do what we know is good for our mind, body, and spirit. These actions may or may not be things we want to do or gain enjoyment from doing.

For example: (On a personal note), I know that I feel better, both mentally and physically, when I lay off the Twizzlers and oatmeal cream pies. Now, do I want to do this? Simple answer: no. I love Twizzlers! They’re a low-fat candy (or at least that’s what the package tells me), but the sugar and empty calories can send my mind and body into a tailspin.

I also know that I need a certain amount of sunlight per day to keep my mood up. Not something I always enjoy doing, but I know I need to.

That being said, self-care may also include things that bring us joy and contentment, such as: spending time with family, engaging in a hobby, chatting with a good friend, or playing our favorite game. These are double dippers, they are both enjoyable and provide self-care.

The overall key is that these behaviors are purposeful, we acknowledge that our body, mind, or spirit is in need of something and we take action to try to meet that need. It is focused and meaningful. Remember, self-care is great and can be a buffer against many of life’s challenges, but it is not a license to self-indulge, rather it is a plan to recharge and maintain the health of our body, mind, and spirit.

That’s my two cents! Thanks for reading, and be well!

(Below you will find an example of my self-care – watching Kawhi Leonard dunk on the Heat! Well…okay…maybe not a great example of self-care, but I couldn’t resist!) I guess it’s up to you to decide: is YouTube considered self-care?

I’m not okay, but I will be okay”


depression, anxiety, communicationThis phrase has saved me many awkward moments. As an introvert, I prefer to work through my pain on my own first, and then if necessary, reach out to others. But my countenance and attitude gives evidence to others of my internal turmoil.

By saying, “I’m not okay, but I will be okay.”, I reassure those that care about me that I am working through something difficult at the moment, but will come out on the other side.

This phrase can be used in all manner of relationships and in a variety of situations. It allows us a way out of that quandary of choosing to either lie about our internal state, or be truthful and then spend 30 minutes reassuring others that it’s nothing serious or warding off well intentioned, but often counter productive, words of advice and suggestions.

That was often my internal battle, until I ran across this phrase: “I’m not okay, but I will be okay.” It’s both honest and reassuring. It lets the other person know that, while we are suffering in the moment, the moment will pass and we will feel better.

It is effective in allowing us to give others feedback on our internal state, yet also letting them know (and reminding ourselves) that the feelings are temporary and that we will, eventually, feel better.

I wish I could take credit for the creation of the phrase itself, but I cannot. I also wish I could remember where I ran across it, but once again my memory fails me. Suffice it to say that, while it is not of my creation, I use it as though it were.

Thanks for reading, and be well!